As a woman enters menopause, it isn't uncommon for her experience changes in her sex drive. While discussing loss of libido may be uncomfortable, circumventing the topic can negatively impact your relationship with your partner. Read on for tips about talking to your partner about menopausal low libido.
Why Should I Talk with My Partner?
Explaining to your partner why you are experiencing low libido is a pivotal first step in overcoming this issue. Once your partner learns about the physical and emotional changes you are experiencing, they can better understand the cause of your low libido and help you through it. Read on to learn how to talk to your partner about low libido.
Make Your Partner Feel Wanted
A lack of feelings of desire for your partner is a potential cause of a lowered libido. Showing affection, fondness, excitement, yearning, and overall lust for your partner makes them feel wanted and also demonstrates your sexual appeal. By not engaging in your partner's needs, he may feel a sense of rejection when the subject is broached.
Make Positive Changes
Taking steps in improving your overall well-being is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. Implementing lifestyle changes, such as improving your diet, increasing your physical activity, and engaging in stress relief practices can positively impact your health. Along with taking charge of your physical health, taking care of your mental and emotional health is equally important. Once you see positive changes in your overall well-being, you may begin to see things from a more positive perspective. In time, this could even translate into a natural increase in your sex drive.
Enjoy Each Other's Company
Take up an activity you and your partner can enjoy. This can include anything physical, such as jogging, hiking, or yoga. It could also include dancing or bowling. By getting out there and enjoying a new hobby together, you can see a new side of your partner that you have never known before, which can reignite the passion.
Consider seeing a therapist. It is possible that talking to a counselor, psychologist, or even a sex therapist can help you cope with your loss of libido. It is also possible that your lowered libido is the result of a deeper psychological issue not related to menopause.
Losing your libido doesn't have to mean the end of a healthy sex life - it is only a temporary problem and there are solutions. It is possible to recover a healthy sex life and you and your partner will never look back. Click on the following link to learn more about the main causes of low libido.
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