Loss of libido during menopause is extremely common, and for many women, it's difficult to get through with a positive mindset. The inability to become aroused can build up tension and cause friction between you and your partner. It can also be very difficult to voice what you are going through, which can make you feel isolated. However, there are many things you can do at this time to pull yourself out of the sadness. This is simply a shift in your love life, not an end.
Staying active is good for boosting both your mood and your libido. When you are inactive, your blood flow will be restricted, which will cause less sensitivity and lubrication in the vaginal region. Also, when you don't get enough movement, you do not produce happy neurotransmitters in the brain, which traps you with negative emotions and thoughts.
Around 40 minutes of cardio in 10 minute intervals will improve circulation and release serotonin in the brain. A yoga session is great as well, with the added benefit of increased gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA), inducing tranquility.
When you are excessively stressed, it will make your depression deeper and become harder for you to focus on having sex. The lack of attention on the matter at hand will make it even more unlikely for your body to receive sexual cues.
When you release worries, your mood elevates and you can enjoy the present moment. One way to release your concerns is through meditation, you can do this at home with ambient music, a guided video, or join a local meditation group. When you practice consistently, you will notice a deep shift in your ability to cope and feel mental clarity. Yoga can be extremely useful in treating symptoms of depression.
A Night Out
Do not shy away from your partner, even if you are going through a lot. It can be relieving to just have a night out with your sweetie. Be affectionate, take a romantic walk, and be open with how you are feeling. This can rekindle a bond and light things up. It can also release oxytocin in the brain, which brings on feelings of loyalty and support. Stay close and connected to help preserve your sex life.
Much of the reason for your drop in mood and libido is your decreased estrogen levels. This sex hormone helps balance emotion and maintain proper sexual functionality. When it goes down during menopause, you may experience erratic emotions, decreased sensitivity, and even thinning vaginal walls, which can cause painful penetration. Phytoestrogenic herbs can help restore estrogen levels. Some great options are black cohosh, red clover, and dong quai. Likewise, Macafem (i.e., a hormone-regulating supplement) is another great option for hormonal balance and relief from menopause symptoms.
Loss of libido is extremely frustrating and can bring you down when you do not know what to do. Instead of letting depression get the best of you - and your sex life - try these positive lifestyle changes and notice the improvement. Your blood circulation will be better, and your mindset will be open to having an exciting night with your loved one.
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