It can be a struggle to feel sexually attractive during menopause, but when vaginal dryness is one of your symptoms, “sexy” is probably the last word you would use to describe your feelings. For many menopausal women, the onset of menopause comes with several unpleasant symptoms. Around 60% of women suffer with this itchy, uncomfortable condition and, realistically, there is no reason for you not to continue to enjoy a fulfilling sex life, feeling confident and attractive. Fortunately, there are a number of tips to boost your libido and start feeling good about yourself again.
Rediscover Your Confidence
Confidence is sexy. Feeling confident while you are suffering with the discomfort of vaginal dryness, however, is not easy. Look for activities that will help you rediscover your confidence and femininity. Most gyms offer dance classes, which are not only easygoing and fun, but they will also tone and strengthen your body, which will boost your confidence and could have a reductive effect on the dryness itself.
An exercise routine doesn't just make you feel healthier, it also makes you feel stronger and happier. If you don't have time to add an exercise routine to your life, making small changes like taking the stairs can be beneficial. Anything that is part of an active life will help boost your energy levels, which will result in an improved sex life.
Set the Mood
At the end of the day, there is nothing that makes a woman feel sexier than experiencing amazing sex. Also, you may want to take warm baths together, practice extended foreplay, add massages, experiment with positions, and discuss sexual fantasies.
Feeling sexy is about attitude and environment; take time to set a mood to help you get in the mood. This might mean lighting candles in the bedroom, donning flattering underwear, or cooking a romantic meal for your partner. Being imaginative can also inspire feelings of sexiness; try taking your sex life outside of the bedroom, or considering other types of creative play, like incorporating a blindfold or trying a new position.
Bring Sex Back
Sex keeps you physically and mentally vibrant. For instance, having sex enhances your immune system and sleep quality. When a woman is aroused, blood flow to her genitals increases, which stimulates the secretion of moisture. If you are suffering with vaginal dryness, this may take longer than normal, so use this time to enjoy plenty of foreplay (e.g., kissing, caressing, and oral stimulation) with your partner to ensure you are fully aroused before attempting penetration.
Sexual activity can actually decrease vaginal dryness, as long as you take enough time with foreplay to become sufficiently lubricated. Exploring one another's bodies will help you to feel sexy, and watching your partner's reaction to your body will only fuel your confidence.
Use a Lubricant
If dryness is causing discomfort during sex at any point, use a water-based lubricant to provide instant relief. Applying lubricant needn't be a medical process – it can be a pleasurable one; ask your partner to help you apply the lubricant during foreplay.
Vaginal dryness can be an unpleasant and troublesome symptom during menopause, but a healthy lifestyle, water-based lubricants, and active activities can help relieve vaginal dryness and other menopause symptoms. Tackle the symptom head-on outside the bedroom, by adjusting your habits to cure dryness and throwing yourself into activities to help your confidence and sense of femininity. These tips will help you boost your sex life and enjoy your relationship with your partner.
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